Monday, 29 September 2014

MY EXPERIENCE AT THE UNIVERSITY OF NAIROBI



It has taken me ages to do an update in here but here i am.
This day (Monday, 29/09/2014) may have not started very well. Having woken up very early in the morning, a friend of mine was supposed to assist me to do data analysis for my MBA Research project only to realize that we could not successfully complete the regression analysis bit due to a mistake in that could be avoided if my supervisor or the defense panel would have been more keen.! Before my hard disc explodes, let me speak out. This has been the journey. Walk with me…..

In here, I have been pursuing an MBA with a bias in Human Resources Management. This is an eighteen unit course plus a research project but I decided to take an extra two to make them twenty, being twelve common course units, four specialization units in HRM, another four in Strategic Management and then take a research project in the field of HRM. A Major and a minor..? Not really. There is no such a provision at this level but for someone who is knowledge hungry, this was a nice delicacy especially the Strategic Management Specialization units.  It is worth noting that life in a public University is completely different from that in private universities/institutions that I had previously attended. The classes are big and student lecturer relationship not very well managed. We had classes that had almost 250 students which only made the situation worse.

How I joined The University of Nairobi and the struggles therein.

In the Last few months, close to completion of my higher diploma classes, I applied for admission for MBA at the The University of Nairobi. Before this application, I said a prayer and told God that if this application will be received and approved, then He will provide for school fees and if it is not His will, then let this application not be approved. After sometime, I received a text confirming that my application had been approved. In my bank account, I had less than thirty thousand shillings and the fees for the first semester was  Ksh 99,500 meaning that I had a deficit of over sixty thousand that my payslip could not raise as I had already overburdened it with the Undergraduate and Post graduate diploma studies Loans. I hence started to wonder where I would get the remainder of the cash since I was to start the classes within the next one month. I begun approaching my friends in Nairobi especially those who we had assisted each other financially in the past but none of them was willing to assist me with not even a single penny. One day I left for the village and tried to share with other friends including a church leader who used to invite me for Church Fund raising among others hoping that they would lend me but none of them was willing too. I gave up and left for the Kerugoya-Nairobi stage so as to board a matatu back to Nairobi have failed in my mission.
Before paying for my ticket, an auntie of mine came across my mind hence I left immediately and boarded a matatu to a place called Kangaita. I got there and shared my problems with her and by the grace of God, she promised to send me Ksh 50,000 but after requesting his ‘children’ as this was to be loaned from a family fortune that she held in trust. I talked to my cousins and this was approved hence come Monday, I had Ksh 50,000 credited to my account. This loan would later cause me pains as I realized that the approval was a bait as my cousins later demanded to be given a share as an ‘outsider’ had benefited from this kitty and there was no way for them not to be given a share.

 However, God continued to open more doors and by the end of the same week, my younger brother loaned me another Ksh 20,000 hence adding the total to sum to over Ksh 100,000 ready for my first semester. I was still worried on how I would raise the money to pay back the loans and raise enough for the second semester but God provided this too!  From a small Kerosene business that a friend of mine and I run in the village plus the little I was earning by then, I was able to repay them.  God continued to provide in the subsequent semesters. Apart from increased allowances in my pay slip that were back dated, the only large amount I can remember exactly where I got from was Ksh 140, 000 which was from higher education loans board. I must admit that the rest was a miracle and I was able to pay all without being out of class not even in a single semester due to lack of school fees. In all this time, I got to learn that if one involved God in his/her plans from the word go, then He will stand with him/her all trough until the project is successfully completed. This is well captured in Proverbs 16:3 Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans. I can surely testify of God’s beyond expectations provision as in this course, I did not only complete my studies in record time but even got a bonus as I was able to specialize not only in Human Resources Management but took extra units in strategic management with ease as I said above. I experienced the faithfulness of the Lord first hand and surely, I choose to live for Him. Jeremiah 29:11-13 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. True to these holy words I was done with my class work by August 2013.

The research project process, the ups and downs.
After I was done with class work, then came time to start my research project. Supervisor allocation took ages as I was not allocated one in 2013 only for this to be done in 2014 and when it was done, I was allocated a Professor as my supervisor. The experience with him was a great one as he is the type that walks one down the path of research work with ease, love and total professionalism. The only bottle neck was that he was a busy man as he used to supervise both the MBA students and PHD students too not forgetting that he had other duties outside supervising research projects. Securing time with him could be a nightmare at times and required a lot of patience especially factoring in other engagements that he also had in the University. However I  was able to do Chapter one to Three (Research Proposal) and finally, it was time to defend the proposal after months of printing copies of the proposal, making corrections again and again but with one goal in mind, trying as much as it is reasonably possible to graduate by December 2014 God willing. With this goal in mind, all that was left was total prayers and working round the clock so as to beat the deadline but I found solace in Proverbs 16:9 In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.

The project defense took place but to be frank, it fell short of all that I expected compared to my Undergraduate experience at KCA University that I can say was simply awesome as the students owned the whole process and the panelists were just facilitating the whole process. At University of Nairobi, the experience was different and the absence of my Supervisor from the panelists made me feel vulnerable and true to my worries it was not an experience to be proud of. I successfully defended it but had to remove some variables from my proposal as per the directive by the panelists who never gave the students the conducive environment to express themselves and just take them through what they had prepared in the project proposal. With no option left, I had to surrender to their guidelines lest graduation remained a mirage. A research project is one of the requirements that can keep one from graduating for years due to frustrations that comes with the whole thing. I guess it can only be fair to call it a necessary evil. Some students had to pay thousands of money for someone to do the project for them to a tune of Ksh 50,000!

Correcting and complying to the defense panel recommendations was another tall order since i had to reorganize my proposal a fresh but I thank God that by 25/08/2014, my proposal correction form was signed hence a go ahead to collect data.  This was simply another tough part as my experience with field work in the past projects was a headache. I had to break for a period of around two weeks just to relax and re energize so as to face the task ahead. By the mercy of God,0n 06/09/2014 a friend of mine assisted in printing my questionnaires that were totaling to 200 hence giving me a good push towards preparing for my Chapter four and five, that is Data collection, Analysis, Presentations and Recommendations. This friend of mine by the name Sammy is a real treasure as he had been assisting me throughout my under graduate to post graduate studies. From helping me purchase a laptop, a printer, repairing my Laptop when infected by viruses, fixing software issues and many other IT related problems that minus him, my journey to higher education could have been more difficult and expensive than it was. I thank God for such humble friends who I can proudly say that they were God send.
Monday 08/09/2014 marked the day that I started collecting data for my MBA research project. Collecting information from police officers can be one of the hardest tasks one can engage in but with divine favor, it all started so well and the most amazing thing is that I got a 90% response rate. Glory be to the most high for being so good to me as the respondents treated me so well, were so willing to take part in the research project hence the remaining bit which is coding the questionnaires, imputing data into a computer,  analysis, presentation of findings and recommendations. The process of coding and data input was a whole new experience especially where a large number of questionnaires are involved. This made me appreciate those who are usually involved in doing such work daily as this was not a joke! 

This may have cast some insight as to why students willingly cough up to Ksh 50,000 to avoid these hustles.  The most heart breaking thing (To those interested in quality education) is that most of graduates/professionals have certificates whose content remains alien to them. Why do I say so? Some start from copying exams but this does not end there since the research project now exposes the rot in institutions of higher learning.  As previously indicated, it costs up to Ksh 50,000 for one to be assisted in taking the research project. One just procures the services of research companies who ask for a down payment, a research topic   and work begins. This is a very well organized affair as the student picks the document from the research company, presents it to  the supervisor, corrections are agreed on and then he/she takes it back to the out sourced party who does the corrections and the whole process continues till the research project is done! The defense panels may be one of the biggest let downs as this vice can be detected or minimized at this level if the student is tasked to take the panel through the whole paper but the ‘bully’ mentality in most panelists makes it this worse.  The defense is hurriedly done, panelists dominated and to say the least, a big joke!

This may be the reason why most organizations have employees at managerial levels who simply hide behind their Cvs, are bullies, the subordinates do all the hard work, the bosses do the reporting and submissions and take all the credit. I can only imagine how terrible it is to work under a person who bought his/her way into management simply because the CV was well drafted,  one is well connected, slept his/her way up to the top  or used other ‘digital’ short cuts that most apply to get where they are. No wonder most ‘successful’ people cannot tell ‘the how’ in terms of the journey they walked to get where they are but only say that they hustled their way up!
An interaction with Hr Professionals through a Face book page revealed that most of us have the papers but lack the ‘human’ side at work, may be because they never underwent the mental pain of doing it but only the financial pain. From bullying those who ask questions, those who err, those who ask ‘simple’ questions and all manner of what I would personally call un called for made me question whether we really acquired our current positions through merit, whether the recruitment panels did a job that can stand the test of time or where things really went wrong. Someone who attended classes consistently, did the Cats and the assignments by himself/Herself, did the research project from the word go, defended it professionally, went to the whole hustle of data collection up to the final document can do better than this hence I personally think that employers should do more than they are doing to ascertain the real value of an employee and that research projects and thesis should be presented at one point or the other during the interviews.
Why do I say this? Organizations are entities that experience problems whose cause need to be well researched, a review of how other organizations facing similar challenges solved them done, an analysis of the available data to establish the trends, presentation of such findings and recommendation for possible solutions done. I personally believe that one must be conversant with research process even if at managerial levels so as to competently interrogate such papers when presented by various departments. Back to class work, I also realized that team work was also missing as five member group assignments were done by two or three members but the document presented like it was done by all. Some members found it difficult to send in their registration numbers for inclusion in the final document despite the fact that they never took part in doing the  task /assignment (after all, ‘Degree ni harambee) the saying was.  Others submitted their individual contributions to group assignments that were poorly researched, just downloaded from the internet even without editing! Some of these were men and women who head big companies, have very flashy gadgets, put on designer  outfit but I never dreamed of working under any of these! This may be one of the reasons why there is a serious disconnect between industry and higher education beyond the obvious. Either way, this is Kenya where the ‘how’ never matters but the ‘where’ is what is really valued. One can cut as many corners as is reasonably possible to get where he/she wants to go. How do I pray that the otherwise happens!

My personal experience is that I need to own all that I claim to be mine. As in I need to work my way to where I need to go, assisted by other people in a professional way, need not to buy my way up but remain patient, professional and self driven however long that will take! From undergraduate studies, my post graduate diploma and in the Mba classes, attending the maximum number of lectures, timely submission of my assignments and sitting in for my continuous assessment tests without compromising them has been my driving force (except one time that I tried to carry a mwakenya but could not even read the contents as I was sweating, shaking and was confused for over one hour without even writing my name on the answer sheet and in panic mode  is  may have left it in between the answer sheet, submitted it that way and left praying that it was not discovered as this meant disqualification from the University!) The worry was that I was not able to copy, the paper could have been discovered and  I would have  been disqualified and from that day I chose to sit for my papers and even when I failed I sat for supplementary exams  with courage as I knew that I failed but some  ‘passed’ but copied everything. From that day till the results were out, I can say that I ‘’ate, drunk and slept prayers’’ with a promise to Maker that I will never dare dream of copying an exam again. I condemn no one who copies exams, buys the project or even sleeps for him/her to get a grade for in this life one chooses the way to live but consequences of such decisions/choices  come to haunt us in life however long they take to pop up.

Do I see this trend in the Police service where I work…?
May be the same thing  is what I happen to see being exhibited in the Police service where there was hope that the graduate Inspectors who earn a direct promotion from a constable to inspector after graduating with degrees  would bring in a reformed way of dealing with their juniors but have failed miserably. I bet when their conduct is compared to the old folks usually referred to as ‘Ngumbaru’ to mean not so much educated is just a shame to higher education. There was so much hope that this crop of officers would bring in a reformed way of doing things in the police service but my personal experience is that the biggest percentage has been a big let down to the ‘graduates fraternity’ as most are simply bullies, are full of male/Female egoism, want to be recognized as educated which rarely matches what an educated person should be like. 

The degree for promotion mentality may be one of the reasons why most officers just  go to any other University and take a course that costs the lowest and that takes the shortest time to complete and after graduation one is able to rise to this ‘prestigious’ rank of a police Inspector. An attempt to reason with this crop of graduates can earn one the wrath of an ‘educated’ fellow as a good chunk of these fellows have no time for the ‘un educated’. Take a case of a graduate with a second class honors upper division in a certain field who practically confesses that he/she is not aware of much of what is contained in their transcripts since the desire to have the paper was driven by that of attaining the rank of an inspector and that’s it.

Somebody wonders then, why do we have the level of education among police officers going slightly high but performance in the police service continues to head south? My bet is education is never valued in here as the argument is ‘kazi ya polisi ni ile ile tu’ to mean that police work never changes. An ignorant statement that I have heard some senior police officers say out very loudly. The argument is that the police Occurrence book remains the same, the same uniforms, same housing, more or less same rank structure, corruption in recruitments, animalistic training in the name of ‘kuondoa uraia’ to mean removal of the civilian mind from new recruits, lack of a needs driven recruitment, training, posting, promotion and even placement just makes the matters worse. Most police officers just work in here simply due to lack of a way out hence one must stick in to at least educate the kids and do other few things here and there. The most shocking thing is how much most of us earn after taking loans. Some have been earning negative figures until recently a cap to how much one must not commit with loans was introduced (1/3 of the basic Salary must not be used in securing a loan) but this remains useless with existence of shy locks.

Advice/Caution. The next time a police officer loots from you, do not be surprised as he/she may be out on a school fees search mission, may be trying to ‘save’ as much as is reasonably available to buy junks that are visible in most parking lots, buying beer and entertainment and funding larger than life lifestyles among other ‘needs’ that Civilians must foot the bill! A good number of officers, an almost negligible one however don’t live like this!  I however pity a good number of those married to irresponsible male/female cops who most of the times withdraw their salaries, drink/spend it all only for the wives/husbands to ask for an explanation on how the money was spent only to receive severe kicks/slaps reason being that they are not the one s who ‘put on uniforms’ to work hence have no say on the salary of their husbands/wives. I will be quick to say that there is a small number of officers who don’t live this kind of lifestyle.

Is a police officer a liability or an asset to this Nation..?

One year after the #westgate attack was widely being commemorated; I wondered why I had not seen a similar commemoration for the fallen heroes who died in the Baragoi massacre. The same men in uniform who were engaged in Westgate rescue mission were the same guys whose comrades were massacred in Baragoi hence I could say there were double standards on matters terror or tragedy.  This may be one of the reasons why being arrested by a police officer is not a sweet thing  due to the fact that one must always part way with some  money for release even when one has broken no law.  May be humane treatment of police officers, proper funding and accounting of these monies, modern and professional training, placement, promotion or even putting in a well managed exit programme would be one of the ways to tame insecurity in this nation lest we continue chasing shadows in the name of taming the run down insecurity, corruption and mis management of matters police officers. How do Kenyans expect an ill trained, housed, posted, fed, uniformed and stressful police officers to be effective at work? Or we have Nyumba kumi to sort out insecurity? 

My fellow officers working in the operational areas may be the most vulnerable employees of the Government of Kenya. These are areas where banditry, cattle rustling and enemy attacks are the order of the day. Clean drinking water is a problem here, proper sanitation a problem, no proper food, the officers are ever stressed and marriages broken, allowances stolen by bosses and the little that is available is barely adequate for survival. The married ones suffer most as commuting to visit their ‘next of kin’ as popularly known in here , once in a month may never be possible.  May be if senior government officers, politicians and those sitting in various commissions set to address matters police officers visits these areas with all being subjected to what police officers go through for only three days, police officers would be given their rightful place in the society, would be paid well, trained well, transferred and promoted through merit, would be well clothed, fed, housed and even have access to the best medical facility in this nation. Kenya as a country could be the safest in the region if not in the world….

Thursday, 8 May 2014

HOW I JOINED KCA UNIVERSITY AND THE STRUGGLES I WENT THROUGH.



Life in Kca University.

September 2008 saw me join  KCA University for a Bachelor of Commerce degree. For me, the dream that I had always had, that of joining an institution of higher learning had finally started seeing the light of the day. In here, shock awaited me. On the first day, we were given a piece of paper where we were expected to write our names, and e mail addresses. I and another colleague of mine had never heard of an E mail address hence left the space blank. This was just an indication on how much we were lagging behind as other students had already embraced technology and used it even in the place of work. The closest I had come to any office machine was to a type writer which was used by orderlies/Secretaries hence I could also not operate it.

After this, it was time to introduce ourselves in class. The other students proudly identified with their work places where most were from the private sector and could proudly say so. When it came to my turn, I could not tell the class that I was a police man. Thanks to inferiority complex and considering that police officers were known for not so good things, I decided to say this….My Names are Kabere Martin, I work for the Ministry of Internal security, Office of the president!”. There was no place that I said that I was a police constable and more so a GSU officer. The refusal to disclose where I was actually working and more specifically to state that I was a officer of the law was informed by the fact that  the public was not known to be so kind to officers and the officers ourselves had and still do to date  continued to taint our image hence making the job of a police officer less desirable to many. However, with time, the very closest of my friends totaling to five had the ‘secret’ revealed to them.
Life over here was full of surprises as per my own way of viewing it. First was the freedom to either attend or not attend classes as long as one attained the mandatory 70% attendance as per university rules and regulations. The other was that Continuous assessment Tests and Assignments either sit in or take away were to be factored in when computing the final end of semester grade as 30% and the sit in end of semester exam comprised 70%. This was un usual according to me since I was used to the exams that we sat for during our end of term in primary and secondary school which was 100%. The other major highlight was that of handling group assignments which was a great way to work together despite having come from diverse backgrounds. This was no walk in the park as there were serious group members and other joy riders but managing this was a great way to learn on how to work in groups both in school and at the work place. Mwakenya’s, which are hand written class notes, on small pieces of papers which were used as a way to cheat during exams were also widely used but once one was caught had to face consequences as detailed by the university exam rules and regulations and this was being sent away from the University forever.

A semester, which is an equivalent of four months, soon came to the end and we sat for the end of semester exams. This being my first semester, I had taken five units, two short of the maximum that one could possibly take. This was informed by the fact that I was attending evening classes and Saturday classes too but had no official permission from my employer to attend the Lectures hence had to sneak to classes. With my job being that which we are always on call, I could be called for an immediate assignment when the class was half way hence could leave immediately I saw my supervisor/Corporal calling. The worst of this experience was one day when I had just sat down in the lecture hall for five minutes, attending a business statistics class and was called for an urgent assignment and had to leave. Everyone in class looked at me in dismay but they could do nothing much. Either way, the semester ended amidst serious disruptions where to make the matters worse; I failed in one unit, Principles of management and had to sit for a supplementary exam. This was so sad for me and I felt like giving up and investing what I had set for fees to other investments. What made me think this way was the fact that I felt that I had done the paper well and hence deserved a better mark having done well in the CATs and Assignments but when I tried to discuss this with the lecturer, all he said was that he had set a very technical paper hence I may have done badly. This was not welcome to me but thanks to a good friend and a fellow police officer, I was convinced that all was not lost and decided to continue to second semester.
 
The Second semester was now on and I decided to take the maximum number of units which was seven. The semester too was a struggle owing to the fact that balancing work and classes was not easy but after the end of semester exams, I had passed the whole seven units which was a turning point in my Campus life. Come the third semester I was able to proudly identify myself as a police officer as myself worth had significantly improved and I also realized that those who I thought were ‘superior’ owing to their backgrounds and work places were going through similar experiences like I was going through. Some had even three supplementary exams to sit for despite I having taken them as extra ordinary. With all these struggles, those of disruptions, Supplementary exams, problems of raising fees amongst others, I was able to successfully sit for 56 Units and by April 2011, it was time to say Goodbye to KCA University and wait for graduation that was to take place in December the same year. Later in the year, I graduated with a second class honors upper division which I always prayed for and worked for. I must admit that it was not a walk in the park but all I can say is that the favor of the Lord was always with me throughout the course.  Mum and her friends, my extended family, my friends too and other guests came to witness this colorful day and their presence was simply electrifying. Partying together, Singing, dancing and reading the scripture plus words of encouragement and thanks giving was what this day was characterized by as seen in the photo below:
 
After KCA University I joined Institute Of Human Resource Management for a Higher Diploma In Human Resources Management.

By the time I was done with my undergraduate course, it was time to pursue post graduate studies hence I applied for a higher diploma in Human Resources Management at the Institute of  Human resources Management that was to start in June the same year. As I was waiting for this, I enrolled for a driving course for the month of May hence by July I was done and ready to start the new course. IHRM was to be my new home of studies for the next one year. This was one of the most organized institutions of higher learning that I have ever attended. The classes were manageable, well organized, small in number, effective in communicating to students on matters affecting them and any other matter that required our attention, had student friendly lecturers, pocesses a well equipped Library just to name a few. Life here was amazing as the students were always actively participating during lessons, engaged the lecturers on issues related to Human resources management hence learning was not only taking place but one was also growing in other areas.

This course was to take one year and was divided into two semesters of six months each and after the end we were to sit for exams that were examined by the Kenya National Examination Council. The year ended so fast and soon, it was time for exams. This was one of the most exciting yet daring times of life in adult learning. This was because of another course that I had started at the University of Nairobi in June 2012 where I had enrolled for an MBA hence after I was done with the KNEC examinations; I was to break for one week and then sit for another Six exams for the MBA course. However, I passed all the Units in both courses thanks to prayers and walking that extra mile just to ensure that I would not get frustrated like in the first semester of my Undergraduate studies. Later in the year, it was time to graduate for the Higher Diploma. At PCEA St Andrews hall, we were allowed to invite a few guests hence my ever loving mum, her twin sister who is my aunt, Mike a cousin of mine and John a high school buddy were all I had invited. The day was a colorful one and having emerged the best student in Fundamentals of Human resources management in KNEC 2012 Series was a moment to reckon as my name was called out and had to walk to the front so as to receive a Non cash prize of Ksh 10,000 which was sponsored by Jubilee Insurance. 



To God be all glory and Honor!

Wednesday, 12 March 2014

GOODBYE KITALE, WELCOME MARRIAGE LIFE, BUSINESS AND THE UPS AND DOWNS OF THE TWO.


At Last! Time to leave Miti Mbili, say  goodbye to life in Kitale and Welcome life in Nairobi ....


Breaking from a camp and the journey to the other is not a joke.On this day, we woke up so early in preparation for a journey that was to start the following day. We were required to break the camp, pack all that was ours, load them onto the trucks ready to leave after handing over the camp to another Company. This took place successfully and the following day, at around three in the morning, we left for Nairobi where we were to stay for the next one year. While traveling, there is what we call convoy discipline during such a journey. No waving to passer by, no throwing trush from moving vehicles and no exceeding time given to relax in case of a stop over. The journey was a safe one and we arrived in Nairobi with no major incidences. The best thing here was that there were houses to live in and not tents. We settled and each one was allocated a single room and in case the rooms were not enough, we shared which was oky compared to when we were living in bush tents. The only problem here was that those who shared rooms with married colleagues had to be displaced when the partners visited.

Generally, life was good here but with places like an infamous iron sheet made joint called Mabatini, I joined my colleague Njiru almost every day for a cheap brand of Liquor called Napoleaon a.k.a Naps after exhausting a better part od my salary. With this ease of availability, my drinking behaviour was now running out of hand. As much as the tough rules where one is supposed to take permission in case he wanted to get out of camp applied here, it was easy to sneak to town drink, party, visit strip clubs and spend most of the time in the down town part of Nairobi popularly known as river road. Here, it would not take two or three days of drinking before I exhausted my salary which meant surviving for the rest part of the month was by taking the ‘Naps’ brand. The only option that was left was to now drink the spirits and this time round, Napolleon Brand worked well for me. This we would do with the same colleague called Njiru at a place called Mabatini or at times in Mathare area One, two and three. Any free moment was time to drink and I must admit that I saved not even a single penny from my salary. This was beginning to make me feel worried but I felt helpless hence I admitted that I was destined for such life. My dreams to join school could not feature anywhere in my plans at that moment. All that was left was to enjoy life in Nairobi.

The lifestyle was made even worse during the annual inter company sports competition where representatives from other companies congregated in Nairobi for various sports which included football, that i played, athletics, darts, first aid and volleyball. This meant that most of my course mates were here hence after the games, night time gave us an opportunity to try to outdo one another on the bottle. This continued till the games were over and time for all sports men to return to their mother station came hence the peers left. The drinking trend continued and not even after I married, i could not stop this. I Could leave my house and join my friends for a drink till late night without caring much. This must have been the beginning of what would later cost me my marriage hence lose the girl I had dated for two years. Either way I learned the hard way…..!I would later join the Kenya Police Hockey team where i have been till now. Will later tell of how i joined and how i have benefited from this Team....

This is how I had met her.

One evening as I was sitted outside a friend's shop in the village, a young girl passed by and was in a uniform similar to that of my sister who was by then a student in Kerugoya girls high school.I woke up and followed her just to establish where she was heading to. After five hundred metres, I passed close to her and the most amazing thing, she asked me where Mr Kabere’s home was from where we were standing. Mr Kabere is my day hence I had an an opportunity to engage her more. This was also an opportunity to escort her to our home and here, I had scored the first point. She happened to be a visitor to my sister who had been sent away for school fees. I offered to take her up to mum’s door step where she met my sister. This young girl was beautiful and despite the fact that I was already working, I developed some interest in her which I would express come the following day. I wrote a small note and gave it to her which had a message that I was interested in a friendship. That was so soon but yes! It happened! By the time she was leaving home, I had managed to convince her that I would keep in touch even if I was far from my home town. Upon leaving our home,  I escorted her and my sister back to school and with much excitement we took photos, and after my annual leave was over , I had to take with my self the photos to Kitale. When I showed my friends the girl I was in a relationship with, many got shocked and could not understand how I was seeing a school girl or was in a relationship with her whereas I was working but I was convinced that despite their  mockery, this was the girl of my choice and had to wait till she completed form four and marry her.

Over the weekends, we used  to communicate over the phone where she could  beep me and I called her back. She could notify me of the day school was crossing where I took an off duty, traveled to the country side and could  go up to the school gate, get her, and escort her up to the stage where she boarded a matatu to her home. On the day that she was supposed to get back to school, I could also ensure that I was there for her and could escort her back to school. This issue led to many questions than answers as I could even take her to a  saloon, wait for her as her hair was made and then escort her back to school. This relationship would later be known of by her mother who was not also very comfortable with this development and as she later revealed to me, she was constantly warned against it. She gave it a deaf ear and continued visiting me without telling me of what the mother was telling her. The friendship continued and after form four exams, we were now free birds and no one could dare accuse me of dating a school girl. By then, I had already moved from Kitale to Nairobi hence she could easily visit me over the weekends and leave by Sunday evening to the country side. Later on, I visited the village, invited her to visit me and I introduced her to my Mum and told her that I was intending to marry her. Everything led to the other and in the year 2007, we started living together as a couple. By this time, I had already rented a shop in Huruma, had a kerosene pump, cereals shop and a small grocery where I had employed one guy and she was supposed to run the others with the help of my sister.

We started well and all I could do was to go to Gikomba and Marikiti Markets where I could buy the Groceries, then head to Nyamakima for the cereals and lastly to Eastleigh for the shops stock. This I did on a hide and seek basis (that is hiding from the place of work) as I went to  Gikomba early in the morning before going to  work, went to Nyamakima over Lunch hour and when am free to Eastleigh. All this I did so as to ensure that my young family had a strong financial foundation.This whole venture was  financed through a bank Loan that was advanced to me by Co-op Bank. Despite doing all this, the venture was not doing well owing to factors that I could not establish by then as I was doing my part but am sure the other parties were letting me down. This was a cause for constant squabbles in my family where I always threatened to close doors but my wife used to convince me that things would be well one day hence struggled to keep doors open. Later, my sister and the other employee were left running the business as my wife was expecting and on September 2007, we were blessed with a beautiful baby girl who we named Njeri. Things went from bad to worse as the ventures were no longer profitable and during the post election violence, we crossed doors. To me, this was a blessing in disguise as I was always looking for a reason to close shop hence this violence offered a good reason for me to order closure despite being miles away. By this time, I was stationed in Kisumu during the elections and since Mathare was like a war zone with the violence escalating to Huruma, I was able to convince them to close shop and salvage what was left instead of waiting for looters to do what had suddenly become their way of life. All the remaining stock was carried to our house where some was sold, the other feasted on and the rest kept in a store. Justus, the kerosene pumpattedant Kept safely all he had sold and gave it to me after the violence with no single cent missing. I can only thank God for him.

I worked in Kisumu through the 2007/2008 post election violence time and after the signing of the peace agreement between Mwai Kibaki and Raila Odinga, the situation calmed and I was able to leave Kisumu and come back to Nairobi to the reality that I had left the place having a business under my name but came back to a closed one which was okey with me. This was no big problem to me as i always believed that failure was part of learning and never gave me much headache despite the fact that I had lost a substantial amount of money which was from a loan that I had procured Co-op Bank. All that was left was to send away Justus, the employee who was running the Kerosene pump as he was not willing to re locate to the village, carry the pump and tanks to the countryside and try to re establish the business that up to date runs with the help of my ever amazing attendant named Wachira a.k.a Ras who has been running it from 2008 to date.  These  two gentlemen are the most amazing men that I have ever met in my life. Men that can be entrusted to a business and run it like one of their own.

Here in Nairobi, a friend of mine called Mama Ken sold me another small business that was selling house hold items, baby clothing, men and women clothing amongst others items. It was not a bad one as we were operating it on a Kibanda and in the evening, we could close it down, carry the stock and keep it at a place provided by the same lady for safety. As my wife by then was running this venture, things started going south between me and her and after we could not agree on the differences, we parted ways in 2009 and I decided to leave the business to her. She later closed it down to concentrate on other businesses that she later established.......